Monthly Archives: July 2014

Female God Thor?

Does anyone else think that something is wrong with this female god Thor?   Series writer Jason Aaron says “Not She-Thor.  Not Thorita or Lady Thor.  This is Thor.”  Check  Marvel’s website.

I have not read the comic.  This is a post on my reaction and my first reaction is, “What?”

Then I continued reacting.

Did anyone ask the Norwegians if we could mess with their legends? With their history? (Actually I have thought this before they introduced the female Thor.)

Then I got my Norwegian heritage riled up.  Would they or could they have done this with Zeus?

What is wrong with the word goddess? The ‘ess depicts female. The word female isn’t a definition second place.   If this is still the default perception then we need to address how the word, female, is perceived, not remove it.

We don’t have penis envy, do we? There are goddesses out there to shed light on. Why not pick one of them to update.

Why not create new characters. There was no Wonder Man before Wonder Woman.

Would anyone address Queen Elizabeth as King Elizabeth? Is this suggesting that we should?

Both the TV show “The View” and the “Lean In” organization have presented this to the public as this is something to cheer about.  I have recognized within myself that I am not cheering.   I’m curious … Are you?

P.S.  The grammar checker was giving me grief about the singular/multiple use of goddess, so I looked it up and I found out  that NIKE is a female goddess!  BOOHYA!  Maybe I should have known this before, but I know it now!

Motivation pt. 1 of a 3 part series.


When I quit smoking, I split my issues into “directly related,” such as withdrawal or  finishing off a meal, and “indirectly related,” dealing with conditions that make you stomp off and go smoke.  Sometimes it was hard to tell.  Motivation could be disguised as a direct issue but it’s not.  For example, I was able to quit smoking without relying on motivation by focusing on cleaning house before I quit.

What does cleaning house have to do with quitting smoking?  Well, that’s why it is an indirect issue and this is where the path veers off and gets crooked.  Cleaning house has everything to do with quitting smoking when you come home from work to a messy house and your attempts to get other people to pitch in and help out aren’t working.  That stuff will still go on long after you quit smoking and you won’t be able to stomp off and go smoke.  Moreover, when this stuff happens in the middle of your withdrawal, you toy with the idea to quit quitting and try again later.  One momentary loss in motivation to quit and you are heading for those smokes.  How do you sustain yourself until the motivation comes back?

This does not mean you have to become the perfect housekeeper before you quit smoking, this means you watch and learn how fleeting motivation can be.  Don’t control it.  Learning how to drop the struggle in trying to manifest motivation, is a practice in of itself.  Take a few days to be aware of when motivation appears and when it leaves.

Oftentimes I would sit unmotivated and go “ugh, that means I have to get up and clean when I feel like this.”   … And I would continue to sit there, getting used to the idea.  Also, this was personal work on ownership.  “This is my time.  This is my timeline.  This is my house.  This is my stuff.  It will get done.  My stuff will get done when I do it.   Anytime I want.”

Who said I was NEVER going to do it in the first place?

Sometimes that means going to bed with everything undone … and not getting done in the morning either.  Sometimes that means standing with your mother-in-law, in the middle of your mess, while thinking, “my house, my timeline,” while not uttering one excuse or apology.

Pretty soon, your thoughts snap into place about what you want done and why you want it done.  It has nothing to do with your spouse or your kids, or worthiness, or where in the heck is my motivation to get up and go do it.  You just get up and put one foot in front of the other, put one thing away, then another, and all the sudden you’ve accomplished something.  And you are doing it because it is your stuff, your house, and its your time.

Let’s Get This Thing Started

I don’t know what this thing is going to be, but I’m going to start.

I just finished a 22 mile bike ride and while I was riding I was thinking, I could blog this and I could blog that, except the blog is not set up yet.  Plus, I wasn’t ready, the stuff I thought about on the bike ride is a little off topic, not that I thought I had to stay on topic with a blog, but I wanted to start out with my topic. Conflict.

I wrote a book on quitting smoking and it won’t be out until the end of the year at the earliest, so I thought, “You know, I’ll just see if I can find some people to help quit while I promote my book and maybe I could build a workbook from that.”  Well, by the end of the bike ride, I nearly nixed that idea.  At least not in the class structure or coaching.  I do have an idea for a workbook and an app, but I’m not really sure how to execute it on-line in a somewhat live situation.  Although, if you smoke and know you should quit but can’t, please subscribe, maybe we will come up something.

My book, ‘The Crooked and Varied Path to Quitting Smoking,’ is divided into two sections, “Indirect Issues and Direct Issues.”  I haven’t ridden a bike for the past 15 years and I find myself pulling out old tools to resolve some of those ‘Indirect Issues.’

I am not athletic, but weight gain is forcing me to consider it, because nothing else is working.  It’s been a while since I’ve been on a bike, namely because they keep getting stolen.   Except, even when we all had bikes, I wasn’t allowing the time to go ride them.  Now, I have a new bike and I’m doing 22 mile bike rides that take two hours.  My neighbor and I challenged ourselves to make an entire loop around the city twice before snow flies.  We made the loop once and now we are doing it weekly.  This was our third attempt as we weaved in and out of the litter from last nights fireworks.  (The paved bike trail makes a nice launching place.) Today was our first time dealing with strong headwinds.  OMG, over the past few weeks we’ve been able to get our speeds up 12-14 mph, today with the headwinds we were seeing numbers as low as 7 but mainly 8-10 mph.  Seeing that, early in the ride, and knowing what is ahead of us, is overwhelming.

When it was over, I winced as I caught a glimpse of my shape reflected in the storm window of my screen door.  What happens when I reach my ideal weight?  Am I still going to think this bike ride is so great?  I’ve already achieved going around the loop.  If I stop biking after my goal, (or winter) will the weight come back?  I’m told it will.  What else is there after achieving goals?  How do I keep it fresh?  How do I keep maintaining when my focus will automatically find itself on a new goal that I desire?

Again, just like in quitting smoking, I find myself in training to like it, to look forward to doing it.  Not to look upon it with dread.  Not waiting for motivation, which can be so hit and miss.  I want to be eager to do the activity.

So I’m on a new crazy path and you know what?  This path is supposed to be about running and I took a crazy detour on the bike path.

Now, I’m going to burn more calories by mowing the lawn.  Tootles.

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