Most of my work with the False Quit Dates was to activate triggers and deal with them while I continued to smoke. I captured the triggers, or issues, and dissected them into the most basic concept … I pondered them. Triggers are issues related to smoking that makes a person fail to quit. I divided these triggers into Direct Issues and Indirect Issues.
Direct Issues, basically are habits. Smoking after a meal. Get in the car, start it up and light up a cigarette. Wake up, grab a cup a coffee, go on the porch to watch the sunrise and have a smoke. You may have the idea that if you quit smoking you’ll never be able to go on the porch with a cup of coffee without clinging to the memory of having a cigarette. This is especially hard when it comes to the after dinner cigarette … you need to eat.
Indirect issues are triggers that make you stomp off to go smoke. Having a bad day at work. Upsetting a customer. Getting into a car accident or at least having a close call. Getting angry that after taking care of everyone else, there is no time for your stuff.
Usually when I set a False Quit Date, a couple of issues would come up. First, I would pick the easiest ones to work on. I figured if I worked my way up, the hard ones wouldn’t be so hard when I got to them. Second, I would try to pick a direct issue and an indirect issue. I figured the first one was practice and the second one was an attitude adjustment.
Yes, I would get on myself about screwing around and I should just get busy quitting. Except unlike before where I tried to quit and failed, I felt like I was actually doing something about my quit, instead of giving up and continuing to smoke. This way, even though I was continuing to smoke; I didn’t give up. That is why I kept setting another False Quit Date.