The core of my writing and this blog is basically manners. I’ve tried to think of how to make this relevant especially in an era when being abrasive and sarcastic rule. I’ve tried to do this while bogged down with something other than the Christmas spirit.
For example instead of sugar-plum fairies, christmas lights and merriment that Christmas is coming, my word of the month has been “douche bag.” More specifically a phrase , “don’t make douche-bag choices.”
For two days at work, I’ve “stepped outside” to calm things down and to represent ourselves to unruly customers because they would rather make the douche bag choice over their choice to use their manners. One person had to show off because he works in the industry and had to get all snappy about how he knows how it’s done. He went on this endless rant to where the people with him were telling him to shut up. (yay). The other incident was some kids came in for free water and nothing else. Since our free water is sippy cups, apparently this wasn’t enough “free” for them, so they started kicking and slamming counters, booths and glass doors on their way out. I was a bit behind but I followed them out to their waiting car and stared at them while they pulled away. The driver (same age) had no idea what was happening and kept pausing as she couldn’t figure out why she was receiving this pathetic “why?” gesture I was throwing her way. (An innocent bystander as I was trying to read her intentions of stopping the car or going.)
Later we discussed why do people make the choice to act out this way? Is this what they want to be known as? Really? I joked I should hashtag – don’t make douche bag choices. I got a laugh out of it. I don’t think it would be a bad thing. It maybe off-putting to some of the circles I run in, but if I heard someone say, “don’t make douche bag choices” to someone who decided to be disruptive and rude, I think that would be a good thing.
I have often wondered about anti-bully campaigns because bullies don’t see themselves as bullies. Some, not all, but some, believe they are making the cool choice. They believe it is all in the name of fun. If someone could point out that they were making the douchy choice without actually labeling them a douche bag. ??? Would it make them aware of how they are representing themselves and they COULD choose to represent themselves in a better way? Oddly … I see this as empowerment.
Look, graffiti isn’t put up by evil gremlins during the night. It’s done by our children hanging out and one says, “Hey, I got an idea!”
The graffiti doesn’t get put up because someone else said, “Hey, let’s not. Let’s do this instead.” And they just kept the crime rate from going up. So instead of laughing and giggling at kicking the counter if the other girl with the water said don’t make douche bag choices, would they have left? If the girl in the car said to the guy on a rant, don’t make douche bag choices instead of shut up, would he have recognized he was making a choice to be brat, instead of trying to prove he was in the right because HE knows the procedure?
What would happen if we view criminal acts such as stealing and vandalism as douche bag moves instead of ballsy moves? What would happen if we told our politicians to quit making douche bag choices?
Who knows. If everyone took one day … Just one day … to #dontmakedouchebagchoices maybe we’d catch that national wave of Christmas Spirit before this season passes us by.