Generations of us women have done our part to break the chains of the kitchen and the never-ending laundry. Here are some conflicts that, for me, arise nearly on a daily basis. I wonder if you feel the same?
Learn and teach how to support the other woman’s decisions.
The time for detesting other women is over. Other women are not your competitors. Supporting another woman isn’t taking anything away from you. You don’t have to agree with a woman’s ideas to support her plan … to support her.
Even when losing a competition or career position to another woman, you need to figure out how your loss affects your plan and adjust accordingly. These adjustments can’t include how to undermine the other woman. People are entitled to their own overall plan and you need to focus on your own plan.
Here is the conflict. We want independence, yet we attach ourselves to the herd. We are pressed with this urgent need to worry about being left behind the herd. As if we are going to let the whole gender down. We also worry about other women jumping ahead of the herd. And we are vicious about it. We gossip, sneer, belittle, and call each other names.
We need to learn and then teach how to deal with these issues of jealousy and attachment. We aren’t going to learn how to cope with these issues from men as they are more bewildered about females than we are.
These lessons need to be taught by women, which means you. That means we need to learn through trial and error and teach what works.
The point is … Another woman’s conjecture or presumptions have nothing to do with you and your timeline. So keep your negativity out of other women’s timelines and focus on your own.
Addendum — Seriously. I find it odd that I first wrote this draft months ago because, I just got passed over for a promotion and I’m putting this into practice right now. Ugh, I was being groomed for this position! So, believe you me, I’m watching and learning to see how this applies to my overall plan. There will be more on this later.