Category Archives: Day to Day Living

FRUITY FRIDAY BLOGGING EVENT

fruitA social experiment examining six virtues.

This event is open to everyone.

Since there are misconceptions that quitting smoking starts with the quit date, which it doesn’t, I’m inviting at least ten smokers to join this event.  (Don’t worry, you won’t quit by the end of this 6 week event!  Your merely collecting information.)

Directions:

  1. Follow this blog to receive an e-mail for the event of the week.
  2. To start immediately and to connect with others partaking in the event, introduce yourself in the comment section.
  3. On Friday go to your blog and write a post that pertains to this event and link to this one to create a ping back.
  4. Check your e-mail to receive your next fruity virtue.
  5. Repeat for 6 weeks.

Now, while you are waiting for Friday, take a step back and get into observation mode.  Watch your world and the people in it, at work, at home, in line at the store, or on the road.  On your first Friday write an introductory post on your blog with your first thoughts and expectations.

Think easy.  Don’t put forth any change except for hanging back and observing.  As you go about your day think about how you normally interact with others and watch for people who react the same as you would.

No one needs to know what you are doing.  If anyone happens to remark about how quiet you are, wait for them to ask, (don’t beat them to the punch) then tell them you are battling insomnia.  That excuse should get you through this six-week Fruity Experiment.  After that you go back to normal and you talk about it if you want.

The virtues will be in a different order than presented in the picture above. You can jump in anytime with the virtue presented for that week.  The event will roll over seamlessly to get you back where you started.

You may participate in the event more than once.  You don’t have to do anything but keep on going.

Happy Observing

Happy Writing!

Blog On!

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On Writing

Writing is one big, long prayer.

Whether it is non-fiction or dressed up as fiction, writing tells it how it is, demonstrates what is going on, shows how it could be.

It admits guilt, addresses hate, pride, fear, and calls for change.

It celebrates the good in the most profound way.

Similarly it’s perfect in its imperfection.  Could always do better, use another word, … always an incomplete sentence or an incoherent thought.  You only know if you’ve done a good job if you’ve come away both spent and energetic, purged but full, and nothing has changed, but… yet, something has.

Homework 1Hour

Slide07 An hour or more for homework.  Does anyone remember teachers announcing that if there wasn’t any homework, to make some up by re-reading the chapter, or to run through the times table, or just open your book and study. Now grown up, it didn’t go away. If you have children of your own, you still have to make this time to stay on them to get it done AND be available for homework help.  Then of course you’ll run into something you barely remember and will have to research it before you can teach it. OR, if you bring work home with you, your still carving this time out for homework …and wouldn’t matter if you have children or not. Even still, this isn’t about the typical homework we are all familiar with.  Recently the collective is laying it on thick with making time for reading, puzzles, brain teasers maintain brain health. How long does it take you to do a crossword puzzle?  20 minutes?  How long does it take you to do a crossword by a different author? Then also, how tempting is the word Jumble and Sudoku right next to the crossword? Does it take you an hour to do all the puzzles in the daily paper?  When I started doing crossword puzzles, it’d take me all day.  (I’d put it down and go back to it.)  It didn’t take long before I could finish some puzzles inside an hour. If all this doesn’t matter to you in the grand scheme of things, it’s one more thing to think about when the collective brings it up and nags about another thing to do and that “nagging feeling” is what we are talking about here.  So for this exercise it’s an hour no matter what you’ve got going on. (if you caught it, I got turned around, so, yes, pink/travel time is missing here and mint/homework suddenly appeared in the last installment.  As of this posting we are at 17 out of 24. I view homework as more important than travel time, but travel time is one of those that happen because it is going to happen such as sleep, or eat, or getting ready, and as for cleaning … eventually you’ll get thirsty and have to clean a glass, or wash a shirt for something to wear.  Homework although more important is something that you have to remember and make the time to do it.  Hence the unintentional flip-flop. In the end when it is all stacked up, one way or another it doesn’t matter.  Follow this blog to find out why.  As of this posting we are at 17 out 24 hours.)

Travel Time 1 Hour

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I explained this to my daughter once. Even though I thought I did my fair share of driving everyone to accommodate their plans, she was mad that I didn’t do it more often for her and her friends.  As we left the driveway, I pointed to the clock on the dash and said we will time it. It took 10 minutes.  Then I explained that it is going to take 10 minutes to get back home.  That is a total of 20 minutes.  Then, when I go pick her up, I have to take another 20 minutes to do it all over again.  A total of 40 minutes. Then add time for each kid to pick up or drop off along the way.

A total of 40 minutes!

Actually I enjoyed having “car-time” with my kids and I love driving.  What I didn’t like was how much time it actually took just to make a short jaunt.

…Plus all the stopping and starting, to get home to start something then stop and pick everyone up.

…And… that it seemed to happen when I wanted to eat.  (we usually cook once then fend for ourselves for two days.)

For travel time, that is just dropping kids off at the skate park, movies, or at a friend’s house.  So what else is there:

  • to work and back
  • to school and back
  • multiple schools …with different start times?
  • errands
  • do you work out at home or at a gym?

If all this traveling takes more than an hour for you, we probably already have it covered with something I overshot with eating or cleaning or something.  By the way this is just the travel time to do errands, not the errand itself.  That is coming up later.

If you have ever got home and marveled at how long it took just to make a few stops; this is why.  It all adds up.

TGIM: Thank God It’s Monday

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Today’s lesson in Blogging 101 is to participate in a blogging event from the Community Event Listings.   I chose to take part in the Thank God It’s Monday event from TASTE & SEEeven though it’s Wednesday and not Monday.

Why?  Well it doesn’t really make a difference anymore.  In our 24/7/365 lifestyle the weekend up and disappeared.  Poof.  We have days off now and they don’t always line up with Saturday and Sunday.  My Wednesday might be your Friday and your Monday might be my Tuesday.   For those who work 12 hr shifts they may have a Saturday and 2 Sundays.  The communal routine to get off work on Friday, get smashed, go to church on Sunday and ask for forgiveness to start the grind all over again on Monday is no more.

I chose this blogging event because I actually experienced what it is like to truly enjoy Mondays.  Things were so bad, that I wanted to put the week behind me and get fresh start.  Days off meant a stasis in the status quo.  I was trying to prevent things from getting worse and I had to work to get out of it.  The present sucked.  I was fighting, clawing, and pulling, to drag the future towards me.  With that I suddenly loved Mondays … couldn’t wait for them to get here.  Forget “the future is now” I wanted the future to be yesterday.  Mondays meant new opportunities, new chances, another step in the RIGHT direction. I wanted MORE of them.

Today, I have a less obsessive and more balanced outlook on Mondays.  If I love my job, (the biggest cause for hating Mondays) if I love my family, if I relish life, shouldn’t I love Mondays?

After the break of the weekend, shouldn’t everyone look forward to meeting the people they work with?   Shouldn’t I enjoy working with them.  Everyday is another day to experience family life, not just the weekends.  Everyday is another day to produce who I am to my family and their opportunity to produce who they are to me.  That is not dependent on a Monday or a Friday.

Day 4 Blogging 101: Dream Reader

I would absolutely love it if an agent or publisher would read my blog.  That is my dream reader.  Plus, of course, anyone else out that we’d marketed to after they signed me.

Except at the end of the day, if no one is reading, when there has been a lack of stats; the people I’m really talking to is my kids, and possibly my future grand-kids.  That’s who I think about.

Conversations are sometimes frustrating.  Probably one of the worst things I do to myself is I follow what other people are saying and get involved with contemplating their opinion that I forget my point.  Then of course, there is the usual “I should have said that,” because the best things are always thought of after the conversation.  Then of course there are all the interruptions.  They come from the people themselves, to the phone, to animals, or even an emergency.  Big or small, light or heavy, there are always interruptions.

So when I pass on some wisdom to my kids and I can tell there was no impact, but then later maybe had given it some thought … or if they have ever wondered what in the world was I thinking … then they know where to go. Or at least I’d like to think so.

I like writing and I love editing.  When I am writing on here i really hone in my point of view for the way life is.  In most cases, it takes me a couple of days to complete so I have time to think of things to include.  It’s nice that I can get a whole and complete thought out there and in the end I hope my children benefit from it.

Introduction: Blogging 101

Hello Everybody!

I can just about guess that you found me through the June 2015 Blogging 101 class.  I’ve been eagerly awaiting to get started all last week, so welcome!

Our first assignment: Introductions.

Q: Who am I and why am I here?

A: I am a writer and I need to promote. (check side bar) Someday, I hope I can afford to pay someone for a grand/multi-faceted marketing scheme, but it starts here.

Q: Why am I blogging publicly, rather than keeping  a personal journal?

A: Because the things I write about (er um, hash out) need to be said publicly.  I grew up in the seventies and eighties, where everyone was trying to put into practice this massive change from the 60’s.  I don’t want to reverse any accomplishments we made, but I do think we need to run back and pick up some tools we lost along the way.

Q: What topics do you think you’ll write about?

A:  A favorite post that sums up this question is here.  Mostly how to get a handle on life.  How we need to stop hating the term Homemaker, or even housewife, because if you reside somewhere, you are making yourself a home.  Like it or not a working woman is a homemaker.

Q: Who would you love to connect with via your blog?

A: I would love to connect with others like me. But I recognize the need to communicate with others who aren’t.

Q: If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

A: Longevity.  By doing this introduction, I recognized that I am pretty happy with this where this blog is going and do think of it as a permanent fixture that will last long into retirement.  Last month I thought my answer would be to replace my measly income with a measly writing income.  This month something may have happened where I might be able to blend my career and writing a little more than I do now, with an increased income.  I think I am hours away from finding out.  (fingers crossed with prayers on top)

Good Luck and hope to meet you in the commons and don’t forget to hit follow before you leave.

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