When it’s all said and done, quitting smoking wasn’t the hardest thing I ever did.
Well, it wasn’t easy either.
It sure was one of the longest … at least until I started writing books.
Quitting smoking was probably the most aggravating thing I had ever done.
I know I always figured I could try again later.
I just love how “they” tell us that quitting smoking is more addictive than heroin, yet “they” tell us to quit, without going into treatment … they say to keep on working, keep on parenting, keep your routine and just make people understand that you are trying to quit.
Anything that has to do with quitting smoking is a bunch of double speak. You need to shut that out and listen to yourself. Eventually you will even shut me out because you will have narrowed down your focus to just you and your goal.
That nic fit eventually subsides. The trick is to put up with the aggravation until it doesn’t become an aggravation any more. It was easier to handle when I quit having expectations and I rode it out. My goal was to outlast the withdrawal and I had to prepare for it. The only way I could do that was to shut everything out and listen to myself.
Before my Real Quit Date, I took a look at how I approach things in the frame of “hard or easy”. I didn’t do anything new, I went through my day and was aware of how I approached any given situation.
- if I expected easy, I may have procrastinated, because it was easy.
- if I went into a project and it was harder than expected, I would get upset.
- if I went into something thinking it was hard, I did it, but I dragged my feet with the extra burden. I actually made it harder than it was.
After that I tried to quit judging things as hard or easy. Although, I didn’t give it up entirely. I do like to do all the easy stuff first, so I can take time on the hard stuff without thinking I still need to allow time for 10 other things. After all, that is how I approached smoking. Challenge all the easy aggravations first and there is no choice but to reveal the hard ones and face them.
But mostly, I just had to allow the time to heal. I smoked for over 25 years. There is a lot of healing going on. I had to submit and just let it happen because I didn’t have control over my body healing. I didn’t know how long it was going to take. I just had to abstain from smoking long enough to trust myself not to pick up a cigarette on a whim … or at least the first excuse I could find. I had to quit quitting” only for the reason that I wanted to move on to something else. I had to view looking forward to quitting more than I viewed it as a pesky problem that was impossible to do.
I’m willing to bet that right-now your view-point of quitting as pesky and problematic is greater than your desire to quit.
Your successful quit date will come once you turn that around.