Take one day and count how many times you felt the pang of competition. All of it; from you and against you. No one has to know what you are doing, just go through your day being aware.
There are so many different kinds:
Racing against time
- be on time
- to get it all done on time.
- besting your former time
Competition between people
- one on one
- team competitions
- someone trying to win you over
- someone trying to be better than you
- to be better than others
- proving intelligence
Competition with self
- improve performance
- do more
The challenge is to take a couple of days and drop all competition. I’m not talking about making any life changing changes from now on. All I am saying is to take one day and get curious. What would a whole day without being competitive be like? Now, I didn’t have as huge of a shift as I did from You Can Care Without Worry, but it was big enough. Well, from that, I didn’t worry about not being competitive.
This has been a huge relief, because I am not a competitive person, although I acted like it because that’s what I was taught, or I felt that everyone was competing with me whether I wanted to or not.
As I look back on my life some of my worst, uncharacteristic moments had come out of a sense that everything was a competition and everyone was involved, so I am glad it is over.
It felt like I erased competition, then rebooted it and found my good sportsmanship. I’ve been able to take part in some good-natured teasing. I’ve been able to support opposing players. I’ve been able to stay on task and not worry about everyone else. Having fun is fun again.
After the fact I still have problems when people try to compete with me, so I rely on the fact that I can only control myself and not others. Although I find it humorous that people compete in a noncompetitive situation.